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Grit and Grace: Train the Mind, Train the Body, Own Your LifeGrit and Grace

A book (📕 / 📀 / 🎧) by Tim McGraw


Grit and Grace - Tim McGray book cover

Train your mind and body through fitness to enjoy a healthy life

Moving daily and exercising regularly were pebbles that set off a ripple effect, improving the way Tim ate, slept, related to others, and showed up both personally and professionally. These activities made him a better person to be around. Tim met people before his shows who told him that seeing him take control of his fitness journey inspired them to do the same with theirs. According to them, there was something about Tim’s journey that tilted their axis a little and helped them change their life’s course.

Tim suggests that there is no magic formula to getting stronger and healthier; it is about making a commitment to do and be better and holding yourself accountable each day.

“Consistent physical exercise helps me bring focus to my life and to the people who mean the most to me.”

Tim McGraw

This summary will open your eyes to the mental and physical tools you can use to maintain your health. It is beneficial to those who have already established a fitness practice and those waiting for inspiration to start something new.

Your version of the best shape of your life will be unique to you and the demands of your life.

Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex

A book (📕 / 📀 / 🎧) by Mary Roach


Bonk by Mary Roach book cover

The scientific hurdles of getting intimate

Science has been fascinated by sex for centuries, but studying it has not been easy. In exploring the penis, vagina, orgasm, and erection, researchers have always encountered prejudice. In 1851, American gynecologist James Piatt White got expelled from the medical society for inviting his students to watch a woman give birth. Twenty-four years later, the Gynecological Society condemned his colleague Emo Nograth for speaking about venereal disease. Fear of public opinion, religious beliefs, and political intolerance have long hindered sex research. Although it seems like things should have improved drastically today, they have not. Modern scientists often hide the true meaning of their research by using words like physiological instead of sexual. Such a change guarantees them more chances for funding and reduces the risk of public backlash.

Roach lifts the veil of sex science to reveal the inner workings of innovative researchers who dared to conduct intimate experiments against all odds.

She illuminates various aspects of sex research, including:

  • Masters and Johnson’s groundbreaking work on human sexual responses.
  • The development of methods to treat sexual dysfunction.
  • The role of the clitoris in female pleasure.
  • How the intersection of technology, medicine, and culture shapes our understanding of sex.

Roach emphasizes that sex is not taboo and that studying it can significantly improve our personal lives.

So, let’s begin our journey into the science of sex and use its insights to improve our intimate relationships!

On Fire: The 7 Choices to Ignite a Radically Inspired Life

A book (📕 / 📀 / 🎧) by John O’Leary


On Fire book cover
On Fire by John O’Leary book cover

Your life can be radically inspiring if you learn from your past and become proactive in the present

John O’Leary was 9 when he inadvertently started a fire in his garage while he was playing. The fire burned his entire body, with two-thirds suffering 3rd degree burns. Everyone thought he was going to die that night. Yet, he spent the next 5 months choosing to live. These months of excruciating pain taught him invaluable lessons. His journey to rehabilitation and triumph involved several years with different curves on the way.

“99 Look for good and find good. Look for bad and it will show up.”

John O’Leary

Motivating others to be optimistic by sharing your pain, loss, triumphs and lessons is more meaningful than talking from abstract thought. In a practical and humorous manner, John O’Leary vulnerably shares the choices he had to make to become resilient and gain perspective.

No matter how hard things might be, good things can come out of the darkest moments.

Is there something you want to change in your personal and/or professional life? Do you crave an inspired life? You can make choices that will produce the results you seek.

“99 Everything we do matters. Our lives are sacred. There are no small players. There are no small tasks.”

John O’Leary

The path to a positive outcome for your life is not a lonesome road. You need a tribe, a community, a family that will provide the support system you need to bring transformation to your life.

This summary emphasizes the 7 choices that can ignite you to move in the direction of a radically inspired life. These choices are:

  • A choice to live rather than avoiding death
  • A choice to come out of hiding to experience life’s miracle
  • A choice to explore the potential in you and jettison indifference
  • A choice to ask the right questions the right way
  • A choice to be courageous and step out of your comfort zoneA choice to live a love-motivated life and shun fear

Let’s explore each of these choices to see what they can bring into your life. For O’Leary, these choices led to a radically inspired life that includes a wife, 4 children, and a multi-platform company, “Live Inspired.”