Lessons from homosexual partners
During her analysis of sex science, Roach dreamed of discovering a study that could solve the perfect sex mystery. She hoped to find the results of scientists studying not only physical aspects but also that special sensual bond between partners. Eventually, Roach stumbled across another project where Masters and Johnson spent five years comparing sex between three groups of partners:
- Heterosexual
- Homosexual
- Ambisexual (those who had sex with both women and men)
When Masters and Johnson put aside measuring devices, kept their experiments secret, and concealed participants’ names, they realized they could finally observe living people and their unique sexual experiences and quickly saw the difference between heterosexual and homosexual partners. What happened between lovers of the same sex amazed them. These individuals weren’t using different techniques; they were taking their time, slowly and attentively enjoying each other. It was also interesting that when a lesbian made her partner feel pleasurable, it turned her on too. In contrast, heterosexual couples were so focused on their pleasure that they overlooked their lover’s needs.
Observations led the researchers to believe that homosexual partners had a more advantageous position because of gender empathy. They could better understand what the partner wanted. Unfortunately, the desire to do for your partner what you wish for yourself does not work for heterosexuals. Since men usually enjoy intense and fast movements of the penis, they tried to apply the same principle to a woman’s clitoris in vain. Heterosexual women were also not attentive to their partners and did not squeeze the penis as much as the man needed.
However, do these findings mean that sensual and satisfying sex is impossible between partners of different sexes? Definitely not. Masters and Johnson’s research only confirms that sex requires communication. Although it is difficult for men and women to feel each other’s needs intuitively, they can always voice them. Paying attention to a partner’s desires can provide tremendous physical and emotional satisfaction and become the foundation of a happy and fulfilling intimate relationship.