Most of the pain you experience comes from within and not from external circumstances
You feel pain because your body is building an internal resistance to an external circumstance that you cannot change.
When you are unsatisfied with the situation of things and are unable to change the situation, you feel pain. A past event you regret cannot be changed. Your body will respond to this by feeling pain.
⚡️Pain comes from resisting situations that you cannot change.
On an emotional level, it appears as a negative feeling. On the physical level, it causes the development of what is called the “pain-body.” The pain-body is a part of the self that needs you to feel pain so it can survive. Every time you experience pain, the pain-body grows. It continues to feed on your pain and grows stronger with each pain you experience. As it grows stronger, it makes you feel miserable and sad.
This experience can continue until you become one with your pain-body. Consequently, it becomes difficult to let go of the pain because it has become an important part of your life. You have embraced it wholly so that it becomes your identity. To lose the pain will mean to lose your identity.
⚡️If the pain-body becomes your identity, you feel more pain to sustain the identity.
Hence, when you feel anger or frustration because of some external situation, your pain-body is in charge. It causes you to take actions that will cause more pain because it needs the pain to survive. You blame the situation for your anger and feel pain as a result. After all, it is not your fault.
In truth, pain is mostly self-created. Therefore, you can dissociate yourself from it by making a different set of choices.
⚡️You can kill your pain-body by choosing a different course of action when you’re triggered to feel pain.