You deprive yourself of happiness when you allow the “ego” to control your thoughts and behavior
Nobody wants to be miserable, yet many are unhappy. Why do people tend to press the self-destruct button? The answer lies in the ego. The ego unconsciously controls how you think and behave. It is difficult to measure the extent of control that the ego has on your life because it works stealthily. For example, when we reflect on some actions we took in a heated situation, we may notice with regret that we overreacted. But we didn’t spot the fact that we had gone overboard while we were in the thick of things. That is the ego in action.
⚡️The ego acts against your own best interests because its survival depends on your misery.
It is a destructive part of your mind that produces misery. People suffer because they have not killed the ego. They engage in self-sabotaging behavior such as refusing to leave a destructive and painful relationship. They do not want to wound their ego.
⚡️The ego is difficult to detect when it is at work.
In a bid to take control of your thinking and behavior, the ego leads you into situations that put you at odds with others.
Consequently, you become unhappy and this becomes a breeding ground for your ego.
A clash of egos occurs all the time in households and office spaces. The ego gets in the way of people’s desire for peaceful coexistence. They become annoyed and overreact over trivial matters. Give the ego an inch and it will take a mile. Much suffering comes from ceding control to the ego.